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Prod your muse

Spirit of Medicine Lake, Jasper National Park Alberta

On the bulletin board beside my desk is a sign that reads “The ultimate inspiration is the deadline,” a quote attributed to Nolan Bushnell, cofounder of Atari. Truer words were never spoken. Much as I hate to admit it, many times I’ve put off my own writing projects because … sigh the muse just isn’t with me today. But something magical seems to happen when I sign a contract and commit to a deadline. I can be staring at a blank computer screen and beating my head on the keyboard at four in the morning—but the story will be written, edited, proofed, and ready to go by eight. Somehow just knowing I’m on deadline has the power to fire up my creative spirit.

Quotes to help you get a grip

Dejected Business Sitting on Steps

You’re already running behind when, as you’re buckling your screaming toddler into the car, you notice he’s wearing two different types of shoes. You back over a toy on your way out of the garage, get stuck in a nightmarish traffic jam, finally drop off the kids, and wind up being the last straggler to the daily staff meeting. The boss decides to single you out as an example of people who do a poor job scheduling their mornings. And since you were late, you lost your chance to volunteer for the plum assignments and wind up being assigned to chaperone past board members during the upcoming annual meeting.

You’re having a very bad day. And the clock hasn’t yet struck 9 a.m.

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What’s your procrastination style?

Man Wearing Gold Medal Around His Neck

My dad doesn’t have many negative traits, but somehow he managed to pass those he does have to me. Neither of us suffer fools gladly, though at least he’s usually wise enough not to engage them in pointless discussions—something I’m still trying to learn. We’re both hopeless pack rats. And if procrastinating were an Olympic event, we’d both have more medals than American swimmer Michael Phelps. But Daddy would have the gold.

When we were kids, my dad bought a used Jeep Wagoneer from a family friend and drove that thing until it was ready for the scrap yard. Time and again Mom cautioned him that he needed to have the Jeep serviced or replace it before he found himself hitchhiking around town. Time and again Daddy said he’d get around to it tomorrow … next week … next month … one of these days.

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Don’t be afraid of your money

Hand with Five Dollar Bill by Antique Cash Register

You know you’re one of the recognized experts in your field when a) you’re being booked by everyone from the morning news shows to CNN’s Larry King to Oprah, and b) you’re being lampooned on Saturday Night Live. Financial whiz Suze Orman is definitely one of the leading experts in her field.

But if you think Orman was born with a gift for understanding and overcoming financial chaos, think again. Orman’s earliest relationship with money wasn’t built on know-how, but on fear.

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Want help dieting? Phone a friend

Close View of a Fat Prairie Dog

If you’re looking for encouragement for your weight-loss efforts, you don’t necessarily have to opt for a top-of-the-line support system. According to research published in the Canadian Medical Association Journal, a low-budget program will work just as well.

Researchers from the Edgar National Center for Diabetes Research in Dunedin, New Zealand, divided 200 women who had lost at least 5 percent of their body weight into two support groups. The “intensive” group went to 11 individualized 35-minute meetings with a nutritionist and exercise trainer plus two training sessions at a private gym. The other group weighed in with a nurse every two weeks and spent five to 10 minutes talking with her about their diet and physical activity. The nurse would also periodically check in with participants by phone between weigh-ins.

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3 ways to boost your productivity

Window with Morning View

Sometimes I get to the end of my day, look back—and see nothing. Okay, I got out of bed? Obviously. Worked out? Yep. Showered? Uh-huh. Spent the day working … making phone calls … sending e-mails … doing all day’s the required activities? Check, check, check, and check.

But despite doing all the right things, I haven’t accomplished anything substantive. So what went wrong?

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How to clean up your trash talk

Formula 1 Auto Race

In a 2001 interview about the art of comedy, Jerry Seinfeld said that, though he isn’t offended by cursing, he doesn’t use it in his routines because it’s a cheat.

“[I]f we’re talking about automobile racing, when you swear in comedy, it’s kind of like cutting across the infield. Yes, you do get there faster, but the idea is to go all the way around the track.”

For some reason, when comedians make crude comments or toss out the f-word, audiences immediately start guffawing. Requiring both storytellers and listeners to put in a little intellectual creativity to get to the comedic payoff, as Seinfeld says, takes a bit more effort.

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Don’t worry what people think

Gingerbread Cookies Display Different Facial Expressions

Most of us spend way too much time worrying what others are thinking about us. But we really have no idea what’s going on in anyone else’s head—as I discovered one Christmas.

Our family had gathered at my brother’s and I was refereeing an argument between my then seven-year-old nephew and his younger sister. When I told them they shouldn’t bicker, my nephew announced, “But you and Mimi fight all the time!”

Now “Mimi” is what the kids call my mother, and she and I are exceptionally close. The only time I could remember us getting in a spat in front of the children was when I’d joined them in a wild game of hide-n-seek at her house and we’d nearly pulled down her drapes.

“We do not fight all the time!” I said, but my nephew was adamant. “Okay, then what do we fight about?” Without hesitation, he answered: “Food!”

Food?

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Should I make friends at work?

Terrel Owens/ Donavan McNabb  '04/'05 slapping hands ©Photofile

In 2004, American pro football wide receiver Terrell Owens was welcomed into the Philadelphia Eagles locker room. The new addition to the team was warmly embraced by star quarterback Donovan McNabb, and the dynamic duo led the Eagles to a conference championship and their first Super Bowl in 24 years.

It seemed the beginning of a beautiful workplace friendship, until …

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Make an unforgettable impression

Words to Live by: Kindness

Twenty-four/seven media and the desperate need to fill airtime have spawned a new type of celebrity: people who are famous just for being famous. These pseudo-stars don’t have any discernible talent other than the ability to get attention, usually for being obnoxious. They never seem to think beyond how much play they can get for the next sound bite—which was evident when the Today show’s Al Roker asked one hot “reality” couple if they were proud of the embarrassing behavior that brought them notoriety. They didn’t seem to understand the question.

Despite evidence to the contrary, though, it is possible to touch lives in a positive way, to be remembered for something other than acting like a jerk. Ernie Harris was a perfect example.

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